As a mom now on the other side of raising two adopted girls who arrived with hefty bags filled with emotional debris, I wish I knew then, what I understand now.
As mother’s we do our best with what we know, but we don't get everything right. We can't. Just like our kiddos, we are learning.
As a parent of a wounded child, not only do we often feel ill-equipped, we are astutely aware that each parenting move is a step onto an active minefield.
But, what we often can't see in the middle of it all, is this:
You will step on mines. It's okay. Often times, it's part of the healing. You, my momma friend are a courageous soldier of God - you are doing great work. Take a deep breath and let that sink in.
Your heart to love and care for a child who has been broken by their life circumstance is the only qualification you had when you entered the challenge and in the end, it will be the qualifier that will move mountains.
Your child is also God's child, and He loves them more than you do. He is partnering with you in this. If you don't see it now, you will one day look back and see all the places God stood strong and steadfast when you felt you failed, took a break, or gave up.
Go lightly on yourself. Remember to include self care into your commitment to love. You may feel there isn't time, but being replenished will gift you time and energy that will pass on to everyone around you. I promise.
Love your child without expectations and love yourself the same. Instead of expectation, look for the beauty - there is always beauty.
A verse for today:
"So do not fear, for I am with you; do not be dismayed, for I am your God. I will strengthen you and help you; I will uphold you with my righteous right hand." Isiah 41:10