I recently saw the movie Light Between Oceans. It was a deeply poignant film about love, pain, and forgiveness. There was a quote in the movie that eloquently described the power of forgiveness. The scene was between a newly married couple. The man came to America to escape Germany after WWI. When asked by his bride, "With all you've endured, how can you not be angry"? He responds, "You only have to forgive once. To resent, you have to do it all day, every day".
There is nothing more crippling than un-forgiveness. Harboring anger and resentment will burn all seedlings of hope and joy. This includes forgiving ourselves and attempting to try to make right those we have wronged.
Many confuse forgiveness with releasing of responsibility; they are not the same. While we can ask for forgiveness we must not feel that to receive the gift exonerates us from responsibility of our actions. In fact, to have been forgiven by another should make us desire even more to make right, where we have cause harm.
"When you hold resentment toward another, you are bound to that person or condition by an emotional link that is stronger than steel. Forgiveness is the only way to dissolve that link and get free." - Katherine Ponder